My commitment, delivered more than 1300 times now, has been to only share my own experience, strength and hope within these posts. I try hard to never describe something as “the truth” but simply my truth. I hopefully never say “do this” because how the hell do I know what you should do?
I say this to give context to the words below, since they are a bold assertion of what you should do, the exact thing I said I don’t know and don’t want to ever share…
I took a class a while ago and was given instruction to “describe to a stranger how to do something in second person.” We had five minutes to write it, not removing our hands from the keyboard. The more I read this, the more I realize I was writing to myself:
You have to first understand what you want. You say you want this rather audacious level of achievement but have you really considered what it takes? Dreaming of things and saying what you want is ridded with lies, mostly. Very few of us really do what we say we want and so we end up lying because it really is a lie when you say you want this thing but aren’t willing to put in the work and do the time. You see the dream, you define what the end looks like and you see this nirvana, this perfect happy destiny and you somehow gloss over the behaviors, the actual modifications in daily activities that lead to the result. You gotta realize, a result is a series of behaviors and actions added together. It’s very simple math, one plus one plus one plus one plus one equals the five that was your goal, but only when you keep all your focus on the one do you have a shot at reaching five, right? Do you get what I’m sayin here?
Once you know what you really want, get clear about what it takes to acheive that and then forget about the want and get micro clear on the what it takes. GO deep and minute. Every action has a reaction, you know this. So be very intentional. Don’t skip over details. We like to say the devils in the details but my truth is that the dream is in the details. At least thats how you get to the dream. Want to climb the sears tower? start with the first stair. Then the next. EVentually one ting leads to anohter. Want to run a marathon? First make sure your breathing. become a master at your breath. Anyone who runs a marathon knows that it’s 90 percent breath and mindset and ten percent phsical capablilty.
Actually, now that I mention it, this holds true for nearly everything. When you learn to watch your breathing, you realize your breath is your constant companion and the ultimate GPS. You want to master a pitch to land a huge new sale? Watch your breath. Notice how your breathing is when you communicate, notice when it slows down, when it speads up and when it gets steady. Your breath will tell you the parts of your pitch you need to work on and the parts you’ve got. Steady breath says you’ve got it. Buying a new house and wondering how you know? Watch your breath. When you walk thru the space, what is your breath telling you? When you really observe it, when you pause and intetupt that hurricane of thought in your mind and put a strong determination on your breath, amazing things happen, it’s like a second brain emerges to provide you the most amazing clarity adn focus. It’s quite remarkable.
Another problem people like you seem to have is not even knowing what you want. That might actually be a
bigger problem than the first issue of not doing what it takes. You cant exactly do what it takes when you don’t know what you want, right? Guess what you can do? yep, you guessed it– watch your breath. Learning to notice what your breath tells you is learning to listen to this inner guide, this intuitive part of you that jumps out only when you give it a full stage to emerge onto and present hte clarity and vision you are after. This guide really is quite an elusive charector… some of us have clarity and a vision for our lives so easily, but if you really investigate you often find it’s because they learned how to hear that voice wihtin themselves and if they could hear that voice they have somehow learned to silence the hurricane mind and I have yet to find anyone who’s done that effectivy and not used meditation and mindfulness as the practice.
You want to know how to begin? By beginning. Now that you are asking the question the hard part is over. The desire to ask, to be curious, to seek adn grow and wonder, many people go all their lives wihtout a hunger for more. You are already there, since we’re here talking like this. you’ve already got it, now you just need to begin. Beginnng is simple, just not easy. It’s a disaplin. Many people like to start with just a strong determnination to practice 5 minutes a day. I think this might be a little much for you, for most of us. It certainly was for me. I began with one minute. Lets face it, one minute is really hard.. I bet my first hundred times I made it 5 seconds or less without my mind overriding the observtion of my breath. Squirel, go! Facebook, go! Drama, go! pay this do that what about them, go! The battles of thought are never ending, it’s rediculous the thought factory that is our untethered minds. That’s a perfect description for meditation.. You are leanring to tether your mind, to harness it’s power and not direct it but simply to understand it.